I was warned before having my own children that trying to juggle motherhood and have a career is possibly one of the hardest tasks a woman will embark on. So naturally once I had my own children I begun to question myself as to whether it was selfish or insane of me to think that I could have the best of both worlds.
As I sit here, writing, at this present moment, I can honestly say I do think it’s possible to have it all. Of course there have been times where trying to juggle everything has been challenging and I have literally found myself on the verge of wanting to throw in the towel and just give up. However, I have hung in there and somehow by the grace of God I am slowly managing to pull it off.
I wanted to share some of the lessons learnt along the way.
The first thing I began to realise pretty soon after having my first child is that time is precious and you simply don’t have any time to waste, so I make sure that I keep things moving at all times. Being a mother has not only forced me to be more organised but its helped me become more of an efficient multi-tasker.
As a working mother I have honestly learnt to be a master of scheduling. Not only when it comes to work matters such as meetings and conference calls, but also scheduling my children’s activities and important school events. All of this is often done whilst factoring in time to do the supermarket shop, the chores around the house, and ensure everyone is taken care of. Oh and let’s not forget the quick argument (and make up) with my husband, when some free time presents itself. It’s all part of the fun and games.
Make Sacrifices Where Necessary
I have also found that trying to achieve the perfect hairstyle in the mornings and flawless make up all whilst trying to get two kids to get dressed, fed, ready for school and out the door in a decent time is impossible. Sacrifices need to be made and I have come to the realisation that I am not always going to get the best outcomes for myself and that’s absolutely fine because my children come first. Half decent make up and a presentable outfit will do just fine.
Cherish Your Support System
Lest I forget, grandparents, what would I do without grandparents? The modern day free of charge child care provision. Having grandparents on board is a God send as I manage to get the odd occasion where I get to have date night with hubby or if I’m lucky a night out with the girls.
Take Care of Yourself
If you want to be the best mother, the best wife, and have the best career. It starts with taking care of yourself. That way, everyone benefits.
The truth is, trying to master being a good working mother is difficult. You have to manage staying calm when it appears as if there is no calm in the storm. I think it’s important to accept that you can never be a perfect mother or colleague, but it’s about finding that work life and home life balance where everything is running smoothly, of course there will be hiccups along the way but it’s about just doing the best job you can.
And…truth is, you’re probably doing just fine.
Words by Yvonne Dadie