The Bible has quite a strong stance on the use of violence. Matthew 5:39, for example, tells us to turn the other cheek if struck on the right, i.e. the inclination to retaliate when provoked or when wronged should be contained. However, I couldn’t help but smile at the picture of Jide’s fist thumping Adrian’s face. Adrian definitely had it coming.
One of the key takeaways from this episode is the notion around being in love and being in love with the idea of love. The difference between the two is subtle but extremely significant. Being in love involves really seeing a person for who they are and still staying committed to them and then demonstrating that commitment through acts of service, the provision of guidance and comfort whilst yielding yourself over for their betterment whilst being in love with the idea of love eliminates the subject entirely and focuses only on the highs and euphoria experienced. Tolu has been chasing euphoria for the past 18 months, arguably because she doesn’t truly appreciate what love looks like. She thinks it ought to look like cheap thrills, intense romance and overt assertiveness, never truly considering that maybe composure is a mark of a man who loves intensely. Even after Jide finds out about the affair she is more concerned with reclaiming the euphoria than repairing the damage that is until Adrian bursts her bubble.
Tolu accuses Adrian for backtracking but he was never truly on this journey with her. Although we hate to agree with Adrian (because he is absolutely despicable) he never promised her anything. He never promised Tolu a ring, or a relationship and definitely not exclusive commitment. He just liked having two cakes. Yet even Adrian knows that lust is fleeting.
The haze has finally cleared. Tolu is in actual fact the side chick. Adrian will marry Cassy and permanency will follow and Tolu will have only “moments”.
“Damaged beyond repair” was a little harsh, though.
What will Tolu do next? Find out on the next episode of BUTiLOVEHIM.